Saturday, 8 July 2017


Its 8:30am on a Saturday morning, Nyla had me up at 7am, so we went downstairs, made her brekky, cleaned the kitchen, put the wash on, and then looked around at the other 101 housework jobs that need doing, feeling so stressed.

I looked over at Nyla, she was sitting on the one patch of floor in the front room that wasnt taken over by toys, watching cbeebies and cuddling her (toy) puppy that she named Max, it was a complete mess, but she had a little smile on her face and looked so content.

It was one of those moments where you realise what you have and how lucky you are, and everything else going on in your life that is sh*t just doesnt matter.

So i left the housework, made a cup of tea and im now having it in bed writing this blog post, with Nyla (and max) who just came up to join me.

Sometimes you just needs to take a step back and appreciate what you have right in front of you. Its not perfect but i wouldnt change it for the world xxx


Wednesday, 5 April 2017

Feeling down

I havent posted anything in a couple weeks because I've been in a bit of a funk. The reality is, I get down from time to time like a lot of people I'm sure. Its been on my mind that I haven't posted which has made me feel guilty and then that's made it worse.

Why do we do this to ourselves?! It's ok to feel down, it's ok to not want to do something. As long as its not a permanant thing then who cares! Sometimes we just need some space to feel however we want to feel.

When I do get in this mood though, I completely switch off, I will bury my head in the sand and just ignore it as best I can until im over it. Rather than trying to actually change it. Not sure why I do this but its just what ive always done.

Would love to know what anyone else does when theyre feeling down? How do you cope with it?



Wednesday, 15 March 2017

Things to look forward to in April

I know its only 11th of March, but there is sooo much happening in April that I'm excited about. Not that I'm wishing the year away of course...

- Easter!!! Yaaay! (Why is easter egg chocolate better than normal choc?!)

Now that Nylas at an age where she understands more, I'm planning on taking her to an easter egg hunt. There are a couple on near (ish) to me. 

Morden Hall Park (Cadburys easter egg hunt)
Friday 14th - Monday 17th April 
£4 per child

Priory Farm Little Bunnies egg hunt
Friday 14th - Monday 17th April
£3 per child

- School Admission results! 

April's the month I find out which school Nyla will be going to. I want to cry even thinking about it... not ready for big girl school yet. 

I think the official date is April 18th

Gives us a few months to prepare, do the school run to see how long it takes, get the uniform and shoes, run away to Neverland so she never has to grow up etc. 

- Peppa pig movie!!! 

What more do i need to say, really. 
April 7th it comes out :-) 

- London Coffee Festival 

Ohhh yesss. Im 100% going to this. Before I became a mum I wasn't that into coffee, now I need it to get through the day. 
6th - 9th April
Brick Lane


- London Marathon 
23rd April

Of course this will just be a spectator sport, think i'm a loooooong way off being able to run a marathon, as in, maybe in a next life. 

Should be a fun day out anyway, until mini-me needs the toilet that is...

Would love to know what youre looking forward to in April?xxx

Saturday, 11 March 2017

Dinosaurs at Crystal Palace Park

Woke up today with absolutely no plan. Which is very unlike me, usually I have at least an idea of what the day will bring. So I looked at my list of places in london I want to take Nyla, I have a list for everything, literally!

As it was a nice day, we wanted to be outside and as she is dinosaur mad I thought Crystal Palace would be perfect. Ive heard about it obviously, and we went past it on the train once but have never been. 

It was such a good day out. The park is lovely! Apart from the dinosaurs, theres a little lake with pedalo boats which will be great in the summer. Theres a playground for the kiddies, with a huge sand pit which i bloody hate as she brings it all home in her clothes! 

I would definately recommend it! Theres free parking on the side roads which is good too.

We'll definately be going back in the summer for the boats :-) xx


Monday, 6 March 2017

10 things I did as a new mum that I wouldn't do again! 

1) Co-sleeping

Don't get me wrong I don't think there's anything wrong with it, and when they're ill they definitely need you but for me, having done it nearly every night since she was born just makes the transition into her own bed so much harder than if she went from cot to bed. As much as I loooove cuddling her in bed I just want my bed back now! Enough's enough! 

2) The Dummy 

So Nyla only got rid of the dummy this year! Valentines day 2017. She was 3 and a half. I know other mums can relate its so embarrassing when you're out and they still have a dummy. It seemed like a good idea to have a break from the screaming, butttttt if they rely on a dummy and it falls out in the night YOU have to go and put it back in, which means trying to feel around for it in the dark when you're half asleep. Id much rather have uninterrupted sleep then having to find a way to calm them down in the daytime. 

3) Compare!

I compared Nyla to every baby/toddler i came across. Looking back, that was suchhhh a pointless thing to do. Anything i was worried about would just sort itself out and she would always catch up to the relevant "stage". 

4) Not sleep when she slept

My mum told me over and over again, forget the housework, forget it all, when she sleeps you sleep. Obviously i thought I knew better, and would use that time to shower or clean up before she woke. Then by the time she woke up i was absolutely knackered! Babies are hard work, its so much easier to cope when you're rested. Lets face it, it takes all of an hour for the house to get messy again so why waste that precious time. 

5) Buy literally everything possible related to babies

I dont know what i was thinking. What do babies need really, nappies milk and baby grows. Thats it. I went OTT and it was such a waste of time. Especially the nappies, i could've opened my own shop. Also you decide what type of nappies you prefer once you try them so buying loads that may not be a good suit is just a waste of money.

6) Personalised everything

This was just ridiculous. Yes its your first baby you love them to bits but you don't need their name on everything. I cant even count the amount of stuff i have with Nyla's name on. Door plaques, dummy clips, baby grows, teddies, surprised I didn't have personalised nappies. 

7) Try to lose the baby weight straight away 

I fainted. I literally fainted in the kitchen because I wasn't eating enough. I was on these stupid shakes that made me grumpy and tired and had a new born to look after. Thank god I wasn't holding her at the time. Never again. 

8) Rocking her to sleep

Dont do it. Just don't do it. Worssssssst thing ever. They get used to it then bully you to do it until they're too big that you cant carry them. Yes they can bully you before they can talk. Trust me.

9) Buy for the moment not the future For example, the cot. Definitely get one that grows with the baby for as long as possible. Not only do you save money but you also just have to do one assembly job. Trying to assemble and dismantle a cot then a toddler bed is just... not fun. This counts for everything. 

10) Baby toys/walkers

This is something i wish someone told me, i bought Nyla alllll of the different stage walkers, swings etc. The door swing, the huge walker that takes up loads of space, the bumbo chair. Nyla hated them all. Well, the bumbo chair she was just too chubby for lol. The only one thing she liked was her baby bouncer, that was a good buy. The point to all this is try before you buy, which ever baby groups you go to will more than likely have something like that. Try them in it, if they don't like it its rare that they will "warm" to it. 

Being a first time mum is hard enough without these additional little headaches.

Let me know what things you definitely wouldn't do again :-)  xx


Thursday, 2 March 2017

The mummy clique!

So its world book day today, which i knew, i spoke to my friend about what costume her daughter would be wearing, i saw loads of posts on Instagram about it, but i still somehow forgot and put Nyla in NORMAL CLOTHES for nursery. 

Obviously we got there and she was the only child not dressed up! It was one of those moments where i felt judgement from some of the other mums, that look and awkward smile which you knew meant "thats so embarrassing that you forgot"

In the grand scheme of things, its a costume, its not the end of the world but for some reason, as soon as you step in the door of a nursery, school, mummy club etc, you enter the world of the mum committee, where everything matters and you will be judged! If your child isn't being well behaved, if your child's hair isnt as neat and tidy as the others, or if your buggy is slightly different, it all matters! 

Before i had Nyla i had noooo idea that mummy cliques even existed. The first experience of it was when i went to a breastfeeding coffee morning, basically loads of mums sitting around breastfeeding their babies and drinking coffee. Luckily there was a nice mum there who welcomed me, but there were other groups of not so nice mums who made me feel like i was a failure for not being amazing at breastfeeding.

I obviously didn't go back there, but I did go to other little mum and baby groups as i didn't want that experience to put me off. Although not all the mums are like that, some definitely are, and you will pretty much be able to spot "the clique" straight away. 

I quickly learnt the best way of dealing with "cliques" is to be confident, speak up, and smile. Then never let it go further than that, no number exchanging!  That way you wont have the dread of facing them at the next class, plus it means you can actually go back and not let them put you off!

Just remember, you are all there for one reason, your child, so don't let the mummy politics put you off getting out there! 



Monday, 27 February 2017

Rainy day fun - At home

Its been raining a lot recently....shock! So here's a few things i do with Nyla when its miserable outside

1) Make play doh! 

Literally keeps her entertained for hours plus she loves helping me in the kitchen. All you need is flour, salt, oil, water and food colouring! Its so easy.  We made some today...

The green food colouring looks a bit radioactive but it settles down into a lime colour.


2) Paint! 

Get the overalls and paints out and that's them occupied for a couple of hours. 

Idea - Cut up some oranges, limes, lemons etc. and make prints! 

3) Turn the living room into a cosy den & watch Disney movies! 

This is seriously an underrated option! We did this recently when we were sick and it was so nice. We opened up the sofa bed, closed the curtains, put on Beauty & the Beast and snuggled up. Don't forget to make some snacks before hand. :-)


4) Beauty Salon! 

This is probably more aimed at girls but doesn't means boys cant get involved too! 

Set up a little area and turn it into their very own beauty salon, you can do mani's & pedi's, face masks, massages etc.

This is a great one as it gives you a chance to cut their nails before you paint them rather than the usual pinning down session! (Unless your kids let you cut their nails with no issues, if so I'm very jealous)

When it was my time to be the client i would lay down and Nyla would massage me with various poking and elbowing techniques. Most of it was enjoyable anyway! 

5) Bake! 

I'm literally the worst at baking, but Nyla loves doing it and I'm hoping practice makes perfect, even though its been 3 years of practicing and still no improvement.

We recently baked some smarties cookies, which didn't come out how they were supposed to but Nyla still loved them. Haha!

Or if you're feeling lazy, just get a ready made kit from the supermarket.

A few ideas for you, which will hopefully keep them from getting bored and driving you mad! :-) 


Sunday, 26 February 2017

Sunday swimday

I took Nyla swimming today as we havent been in a while, i forgot how much she loved it! Im definately going to make it a regular thing for her.  I think i picked a bad day to go though, it was "family swim" day so it was absolutely packed. Also it was mainly all dads and their kids as it was a sunday which made me feel even better about being in a swimming costume. Not! 

We were a bit early so we sat in the cafe and watched the earlier session that was on, which i wont be doing again as hearing "is it our turn yet" 100 times will drive you crazy! 

Heres Nyla looking through the glass and hating all the kids, wish she was in there instead lol

So we went and got changed and went in, i annoyingly forgot her arm bands so had to hold her the whole time. To be honest i loved it as she was so happy it was cute spending real quality time with her. 

Half way through, she stopped splashing about like a headcase and looked at me, i was about to ask what was wrong but i didnt need to as i suddenly felt very warm water all around me! Lol, yep she wee'd in the pool. I quickly swam away so nobody would know it was us haha! 

Things i forgot that are so important:

- Change for the locker
- Body cream! Omg we were so dry after the shower, chlorine makes you soooo dry! 
- Arm bands/ring
- A ball, if you go on a quiet day and there arent any floats or toys out
- Towels, one for when you get out and one for after shower
- Plastic bag to put wet stuff in

That was everything we forgot, hopefully next time i remember to check this post!


Thursday, 16 February 2017

Mums night off/My Birthday fun

I recently turned 29 🙈😢😩 which i was gutted about, so not ready to be 30 yet so i hope this is the longest year of my life! In a good way of course haha.  What better way to cheer yourself up about getting old then to plan a night indoors wearing onesies! Definitely in denial about my age!! 

So my 3 besties, (4th was home in bed with the flu) came over to mine. I dropped Nyla off to my mums that morning. As it was a "slumber party" i tried to make the front room into a fort, which kindof failed as you need a million blankets!!! So i settled for a cosy effect... pics below...  

I brought down the spare mattress and covered it with a huge cosy ikea throw, and tried my hardest to cover the window with blankets.  The girls loved it, and it looked much better when it got dark.  We ordered pizza, drunk the best punch made by me (recipe below) put on a scary film and ate more rubbish! So basically a normal saturday night hahaa.   

My beautiful friend Debs, the other 2 didnt want to feature lol


For this you will need
- Party ice
- Lemons (& limes if you have them)
- Vodka
- Bucks fizz 
- Cranberry juice
- Lemonade 

Method.... Chuck loads of it into a huge bowl and drink :-) Have fun! Xx

Free day out! 

On Wednesday i decided to leave the car at home (as I am getting sooo lazy)! We went to Honeywood Museum in Carshalton, it was our first time there and it was so cute! They had an arts & crafts session so Nyla made some pictures and had a great time. Haven't decided if they're worthy of making the artwork wall yet! 

After that we went to the ponds to feed the ducks, I brought bread with us but they also sell a bag of seeds in the museum for 30p, which I ended up giving to a dad to use. The ducks much preferred the bread.... shock. Would you choose seeds over bread? Me either!


Just wanted to add a post about doing something for free, most of the time when were trying to think of how to entertain the kiddies we think of something that costs money, when most of the time its the free stuff they love!!! #makingmemories :-)  Xx

Tuesday, 14 February 2017

Cinema Date ❤️

I have been promising to take Nyla to see The Trolls for so long! Every Saturday comes around and she asks "are we seeing the trolls today?" So i finally took her yesterday, which was a bit crazy as it was the first day of half term. The reassuring thing was knowing that if she got bored half way through and wanted to start running around, she would definitely not be alone!  Luckily the film was amaaaaazing and she was soo into it (as was i)! I would definitely recommend taking your little ones whilst its still in the cinema.

The kids were dancing and singing, it was great!  Here's a couple of pics...

Of course barbie had to come!

P.S Check out the kids clubs or junior screenings, tickets are only £2.50 each, even for adults! So cheap!! 

Enjoy!   xx

Monday, 13 February 2017

Dating... The "proper" way to meet someone!

I just came across a video on YouTube about meeting someone the old fashioned way, a guy decided he was going to go out in London, walk up to women and just ask them out. The vast majority said no instantly and the others really quizzed him on why he was doing it, and it just got me thinking about dating.

For as long as I can remember I've had so many people tell me not to meet a guy online or in a club as their intentions will never be good. But if someone were to come up to me in the street I would either assume they were trying to sign me up to one of those "free" haircut and photoshoot sessions or I'd immediately say "I have a boyfriend" even if I don't.

Lets be honest if any of our friends knew an amazing single guy we would've already bugged them about setting us up, but they don't, which is why we rely on dating apps or go out to bars to meet someone.

The thing I've never really understood is why is it so bad to meet someone that way? The same guy telling his friends he'll never marry a woman he met in a club will have a sister who goes clubbing all the time, does that mean she is not worthy of marriage either?!

If someone is going to mess you about they're going to do it no matter where or how you meet them. I say give someone the benefit of the doubt, waiting for prince charming to walk into the Ritz whilst your having afternoon tea with your girlfriends is a nice idea know where I'm going with this.

Don't let people make you feel bad for how you choose to meet someone, its better than being home alone scrolling through all the Instagram posts of happy couples wishing it was you.



Kids Slumber Party 

Nyla had her first sleepover last week, im not going to lie i was slightly worried how the sharing would go but it was actually fine and they had a great time! My bestie has 2 girls, one is 8 and one is nearly 3 so it wasnt a crazy amount of kids.  The best bit about it is we could sit and chat whilst the girls entertained themselves! 

I got some plain fairy cakes from sainsburys (couldve baked but i was being lazy) and the girls had them after lunch, i gave them icing tubes so they could decorate them and it was a great little activity for them. Was also funny to see who would be the first to sack off the decorating and just eat it, haha!

This however, causes a major sugar high. (As they didn't have just one) So the next hour was filled with dance routines, listening to little mix and various Disney soundtracks!

You know what comes next.... the crash!

I brought the spare mattress downstairs and they had a little 5 minute chill time followed by fort making lol! We put loads of blankets over chairs and they had the absolute time of their lives under there.

So.... things you need for a sleepover

  • Disney movies
  • Pizza
  • Popcorn
  • Fairy cakes
  • Loads of blankets for fort building
  • Fun PJ's
  • Cheesy music - Macarena, Barbie girl, spice girls etc
  • Nail varnish
  • Face masks - for mum
  • Wine - for mum, unless they really wont go to sleep and need a bit of help.

Let me know what you get up to on kiddie sleepovers :-)



Friday, 10 February 2017

How To Survive Half Term

How to survive half term!

1) Discovery Walk @ Priory Farm, Redhill £2.50pp  I took Nyla here a few weeks back, by far one of the best days out, even better if you bring friends along. You will be given a list of things you can find along the nature trail which you can tick off as you go along. There are loads of lovely creepy crawlies for the kiddies to find, cool tree houses to play in, theres also a part of the trail that is in a forest, we like to call it the "scary adventure" part. Theres a great view point at the top, and a fish pond near the end where you can feed the fish seeds, which you buy from the farm shop for £1. We were there for a couple of hours, on a cold day so in the summer you can stay even longer. The pirate ship was also a big winner! If you bring a packed lunch the whole day out will cost you £6 for entry and fish food, which isn't too bad for a whole day of kids entertainment.

Tip: Bring something to keep them from napping on the way home, its a very tiring day out for them.

2) Soft Play  Standard rainy day fun, kids love it, mums love the coffee, win - win!  Soft plays can be pricey in half term so look out for monthly passes if its your local and you go often. Very few soft plays let adults go free so if you find one you're onto a winner! Personally i think its unfair adults have to pay, we spend enough money in the cafe and its not like the kids can go alone, but hey thats life.

Tip: Bring packed lunch!

Soft play locations (cheaper)  Wacky warehouse - Colliers Wood. £3.50 per child, adults are FREE (yay)  Smaller soft play but bonus is you dont need to run around like a mad woman making sure you dont lose your child.  Downside - You may fight to find a table.

Cafe Flores - Hammersmith £5 per child  Very small indoor play mainly for under 5's but again you can sit and relax whilst the kids go crazy. Theres a bubble machine, unlimited disney songs, a huge chalk board wall and more. Owners are lovely too!

3) Swimming!!!  May seem an obvious one but its never a go to idea for me, probably because its quite a lot of effort, but theres no denying it, kids bloody love it. And you are almost guaranteed a peaceful early evening to yourself as this will have them fast asleep nice an early.

Brentford pool - West London £4.90pp Great beach effect pool, starts off shallow and gets deeper. Huge fun slide!  Tip: bring another human to catch the kid when they come flying out the slide!! Last time we had a bit of a kid-dunk situation, she was fine and loved it but i aged about 10 years with worry!

Westcroft Leisure centre - Carshalton £2.70 per child £4.80 per adult Pretty standard pool, with baby pool & cafe, but loooads of free parking which is great, they also have lots of kids activities, like active antz which is a soft play so you can make the day of it!

4) Duck ponds!  Free day out yaaay! Google local duck ponds and bring some bread, happy faces all around.  Theres a lovely pond in Carshalton with a little bridge you can stand on to feed the ducks. Theres also a park right behind the pond that you can go to after to tire them out!


5) Museums.  Pro - most are free or very cheap Con - Half terms can be crazy, but saying that, most museums put on special events for half term so its not all bad.

Horniman Museum - Forest Hill - Free! Lovely museum, loads to do with kids. Cant fault it at all.  5-10 min walk from forest hill station, or parking onsite.

Science museum - South Kensington - Free (donations optional)  Who doesnt love the science museum! Huge space, loads of cool things to see, bubble show, play area, huge cafe area with seating where you can eat a packed lunch.

Tip: Leave the buggy at home if you can, waiting for lifts and leaving it in the buggy park area is just added stress you dont need!


Hope you enjoyed this post. Would love to hear where you take your little ones for half term? xx

Thursday, 9 February 2017

Our First Home 

When i had Nyla i was still living at home with my mum in SW London, which was great for me as i had no idea what to do with a baby! After 3 months (and still no idea what to do with a baby) i rented a tiny little flat in Kensington which i absolutely loved. It was above a little newsagents and the man that owned it was lovely so i always felt safe. We were there nearly 2 years but it was only a 1bed so as Nyla got bigger and her toy collection grew we needed more space. So we moved to a two bed house in Ealing. I love west london and know it very well, i thought it would be a great place for Nyla to grown up, however the harsh reality was we couldnt afford anymore than what we had. So an opportunity came up for me to buy, so we are now living in our first home which is back in South London/Surrey borders which i know really well.  Weve been here since August 2016, it needed quite a bit of cosmetic work, which i initially said i would finish before Christmas, its now February and im still not finished! I'll insert some before and after pics of what i have done....

Here's Nylas room before & after...

Here's my room now, before...



Im halfway through the living room, ive painted it and  it has furniture but i want to replace the sofa as its too small, i also need to get curtains and a coffee table.

Hopefully it will all be finished before Christmas 2017! Haha :-)
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